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Finding Balance

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So, I am NOT a seeker of novelty. I am a creature of habit. I am not paralyzed by change, though it can be uncomfortable. I am usually quite adept at rolling with changes -- as long as they are "natural." I am NOT as good at this when people around me are unnecessarily imposing it upon me. I don't think I am alone in this. I think there are many, many people, brain injuries or not, who experience the same difficulties with man made, unnecessary change.      Since my head exploded in 2006, I have realized that the people around me, though they ARE the same people who have pretty much always been around me, are simultaneously seekers of novelty AND paralyzed by change. The only thing different in the equation for me IS my brain injury imposed difficulty with switching gears and adapting. This is MY issue, and I believe it to be MY responsibility to fix it or get control of it as best I can.        This injury is MY injury, after all, no matte...

Your social media page and account SHOULD BE ABOUT YOU --

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<<--- That's my dad - rather it is my iPad traced line drawing of a photo of him taken long before I was born. How does this lead into the topic, you ask? Well --     I have been an "artist" all of my life. MOST OF US HAVE. Most people begin to engage with some artistic activities VERY young, no matter where they are. Drawing with water on a rock or with a pencil or crayon, you get the picture here, I'm sure. Someone, somewhere just basically tells us it's not "good enough" and we quit. <shrug>      In these discussions regarding "social media" and "narcissism" that are being thrown around, let's agree that YOUR page on any platform SHOULD BE about YOU. If the people who follow you don't want to know about YOU, then why are they following your activities at all? It is just silly for me to expect your page to be about me, isn't it?      Yes, I am aware of the manipulations built into the software. I am a softwar...

It's Okay to Be Okay -- Okay?

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 It's okay to be okay, okay? I have noticed this trend of EVERYTHING IS AWESOME needing to be the constant state. If it's NOT then something must be wrong with you. I disagree. It is fine to just be fine. I don't understand a need to be in a constant state of excitement, whether it be for positive or negative reasons. It strikes me that this need for constant drama is a dangerous and damaging by-product of the idea.      Don't get me wrong; I think it's great that there are people who wake up and jump out of bed just full of exuberance. That's wonderful if it's naturally occurring. Those people are often great examples for people who maybe have a little less pep in the morning to get them going, but I don't think it's necessary for EVERYONE to have this experience. It IS fine for some people to wake up and quietly begin to engage with their environments without a lot of fanfare.      Sometimes a "Good morning!!!" CAN be met with a simple no...

Reading is like breathing.

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I love reading. My mother taught me to read before I even started school. It was magic to me. I love to listen to other people, especially my favorite authors, wax poetic about the activity/skill. It brings tears to my eyes, wrenches my heart and evokes an indescribable joy at the same time.      As soon as I COULD, I just read EVERYTHING available - cereal boxes, product packages, manuals, magazines and newspapers, literally ANYTHING with print on it. For the most part, I can only read in English, but my Spanish literacy is serviceable, too. I honestly believe that the written word is the MOST IMPORTANT HUMAN INVENTION OF ALL TIME. It really saddens me how poorly it is esteemed at this time. People cannot even be bothered to read a tiny "tweet" in its entirety. It is amazing how abundance confers disregard.     My feelings on reading are NOT some type of elitist thing, either. In my society of the U.S.A. from 1971 to now, the skill is handed out to EVERYONE. It...

My daily yoga sequence ---

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  Warm up with Chi Gong. 4 full sun salutations Warrior 1 thru 3 on each side. Holding each for 5 breaths. 4 full sun salutations. Chair pose for 5 breaths. Palm tree pose for 5 breaths. Tree pose on each side, holding for 5 breaths. (Cross legged and full) 2 sun salutations, dropping into cat/cow on the second downward facing dog Floor: 6 to 8 Cat/cow stretches. Reach out into plank, hold for 5 full breaths Drop onto the belly and ready for cobra Cobra for 5 full breaths – slide the hands back into Upward facing dog for 5 breaths. Curl the toes into the floor. Transition to downward facing dog and rest for a few breaths. Bring the legs in and drop into child's pose for a few breaths. Come up to sit. Spinal twist, holding each side 5 breaths. Move onto the seat and extend the legs for staff pose. Hold for 5 breaths. On an inhale bend one leg to cross over the other twisting to the opposite side. Hold on each side for 5 breaths. Lie back into corpse pose and rest for 5 breaths. On a...

My Mind/Body Theory - from 2012

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  My mind/body theory --- from Facebook, 2012 Looking at this dilemma from the point of view of the theory that “you are not your body,” I think I may have come to a conclusion as to how I can get through this thing best. If I am not my body, then this story of me saying, “Don’t let me die. I don’t want to die.” etc (bullshit, I, or MY MIND, never would have said in the circumstance) was actually this BODY not this MIND. Theoretically, the mind IS responsible for taking care of the body to which it is connected. the statements were the body expressing ITS desire not to die. Bodies without minds, of course, are the equivalent of bacteria, intellectually. So, do I believe that my body was fearful and expressing a desire to “live?” Sure, I can go with that.  It follows, then, that the EMOTIONAL issues are stemming from my mind (ME) being reconnected slowly with this body. This body KNOWS how much my mind (ME) despises it for this. ;-) Ultimately, the answer must lie, per this...

Offended!

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  Yes, this topic has been covered to DEATH in this the "new normal." I am not the first or only to tackle it from this point-of-view, either, but here I go anyway. Here's a newsflash for you --- WE ALL GET OFFENDED BY THINGS!!! Everyone of us has some problem with SOME THING that is said or done at some point. It's okay. It's human. It's healthy, even to BE offended or feel offended at certain things. It spurs us to take actions that often make not only our own experiences, but those of other people genuinely better.      Unfortunately, it can also, LIKE ALL THINGS, spur us to take actions that do exactly the opposite, as well. There are dark and light sides to all things, though. All actions have an element of beneficial and/or unbeneficial. There trade-offs to every breath we take, literally.     The thing that I have to add to this particular topic is that I personally choose to own my own "offense" and not give that power to anyone else. YOU ...